I once had a friend telling me this, "Out of all my female friends, NONE of them were able to wait for their bf to finish serving their NS".
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Well... actually in almost another 2 months, I would probably be his first ever female friend who does so.
Throughout this 2 years... definitely it's not gonna be easy for both parties, physically and mentally.
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From the day he got enlisted, to the day he POP, got posted to his units and lastly till he ORD.
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To many other who might not have been through this, you may think how difficult can it be, it's just 2 years!?
Technically, yes... 2 years is not a long period of time. Then you have lots of people coming over to tell you, use this as an opportunity to put your relationship to the test. See the relationship can last long or not… blah blah blahh.. =.=
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And.. if the relationship fails, people usually blames the girl. Saying things like, “she cannot handle a relationship well…” “Must be she had lost interest in the guy…”
Sometimes, that’s not the case. Let’s just use a very common term – It takes 2 hands to clap. Both parties need to work together.
Yes, the girl has to be understanding, understand that your bf is super drained by the end of the week; he can’t be entertaining you for the whole weekend…
But the guy can still choose if he wants to spend their time with the girl or not.
This is usually where most of the problem surface; the gf may think that after waiting for 5 days, they should spend their time together while the guy may think that he needs to charge up his energy and have no mood to go elsewhere.
Actually, the guy has a choice to do what they want. So don’t force them to act according to your command. They can choose to sleep or forgo their sleeping/resting/gaming (you name it) time and spend their time with you or it can be the other way round. By having the girlfriend being the more understanding party, giving more personal space to the bf.
It’s a choice of who is more willing to be the more understanding party.
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Speaking from the perspective of a gf, the only thing we can do is wait. You can’t stop your bf from entering the NS. So face the fact that you have to wait. And to cope with it, try to think positively. At least you have a little more time for yourself and at any point of time you really miss him badly, look at the picture you guys took.
Or you can take up a course to pick up a new skill. Anything to keep you occupied! XD
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Be sure that you will learn to be more independent as compared to last time; there will be times you will have to face things alone without the support of your bf.
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So good luck girlfriend!
That's it for today. Till next time~
Cassandra
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